Turn-Taking: Why This Simple Skill Teaches So Much More

Why Turn-Taking Matters

Turn-taking might appear to be just a simple skill learned during childhood and into adulthood, but in reality, it is a powerful tool that helps children develop patience, flexibility, self-control, and healthy relationships for every voice and every ability.

Let's explore how turn-taking can benefit so many aspects and discover ways we can support every learner along the way...

Turn-taking fosters patience through delayed access

Waiting for a turn can be tricky, especially for children who are used to getting what they want right away. Practicing turn-taking is a simple way to teach patience, cooperation, and self-confidence.

What does it help do?

• Pause and wait – learning it’s okay to take a moment before acting

• Stay calm while waiting – handling short delays without frustration

• Feel proud of themselves – seeing that waiting and taking turns work out

Turn-Taking Teaches Flexibility and Problem-Solving

Turn-taking can be tricky because things don’t always go the way a child wants, such as when someone else goes first or the game doesn’t go as planned.

What does it help do?

• Go with the flow when plans change

• Take turns even if it’s not their favorite part

• Work things out with others without getting upset

Turn-Taking Builds Positive Relationships

Every turn is a chance for connection. When children take turns with peers or adults, they’re practicing:

• Respecting others’ needs

• Sharing attention and space

• Enjoying activities together

From Learning to Doing

Practicing the skill doesn’t require special toys or games. Here are some easy ways to practice in daily life:

• Rolling a ball back and forth

• Blowing bubbles together, taking turns

• Building a tower one block at a time

• Taking turns choosing a song or game

• Sharing small household tasks like pouring or stirring

Supporting every voice and every ability may look like...

• Using visual or physical cues — picture cards, gestures, or even a “your turn” object so they know when it is their turn or someone else's.

• Breaking turns into small steps — one block, one roll of a ball, or one scoop at a time.

• Celebrating every success — a glance, a gesture, or completing a single step counts!

• Modeling and guiding — showing how to wait, hand over, and resume, with prompts gradually faded.

• Keeping it playful and predictable — using fun, motivating routines like bubbles, songs, or stacking games

Taking turns might seem like a simple thing, but it’s actually really important! It teaches kids patience, flexibility, waiting their turn, and working together. All of these skills help them build friendships, connect with family, and handle everyday situations smoothly.

By practicing turn-taking in fun, everyday moments, kids learn to manage their feelings, adapt to others, and build stronger connections.